成熟女性在恋爱中不会做这15件事

1. They Don’t Sacrifice Other Relationships

1.她们不会为了恋爱牺牲别的情谊

Many people drift apart from their friends during a relationship. While this is understandable during the initial ‘honeymoon’ period, it is important to remember that that your friends and family have been in your life for far longer than your partner. Mature women make sure they have a happy balance between all of their loved ones.

有些人谈了恋爱就疏远了他们的朋友。在“蜜月”期间，这种行为是可以理解的，但是要记住，你的家人朋友比你的恋人更早进入你的生活。成熟女性会确保在她们所爱的人之间做好平衡。

2. They Don’t Forget To Thank Their Partner

2.她们不会忘记感谢他们的伴侣

After you have been in a relationship for a while, it can be easy to forget to appreciate all of the little things that they do for you. Mature women realize that sharing your life with someone is a gift – so don’t forget to say please and thank you!

恋爱一段时间后，你很容易会忘记感谢你恋人为你做的那些小事情。成熟女性知道和一个人共享人生是一个礼物——所以不要忘记说“请”和“谢谢”！

3. They Don’t Give Up Financial Independence

3.她们不会放弃经济独立

No matter how well off your partner is, completely giving up your financial independence can actually mean giving up your independence. Mature women don’t have to ask their partner for everything – it makes them feel proud and happy to be able to buy things with their own money.

不管你的恋人多么富裕，完全放弃你的经济独立就意味着放弃你这个人的独立。成熟女性不会样样都向恋人伸手要——用她们自己的钱买东西会让她们自豪、开心。

4. They Don’t Focus On Their Partner’s Bad Traits

4.她们不会纠结于恋人的缺点

Mature women try to focus on their partner’s best traits rather than the negative ones. They focus on the good things their partner does and says, and they try not to judge their partner for their flaws, instead understanding that they too have flaws.

成熟女性会注意他们恋人的优点而不是缺点。她们把注意力放在恋人说话做事时好的方面，她们不会基于她们恋人的缺点来评判他们，她们知道是人都会有缺点。

5. They Don’t Give Up Their Dreams

5.她们不放弃自己的梦想

Mature women understand that a great relationship doesn’t drag you down – instead, it should bring out the best in you. A good relationship encourages you to pursue your dreams, and a mature woman would struggle to be happy in a relationship if she stopped following her dreams.

成熟女性知道一段好的恋爱不会拖她们后腿——它反而会激发你最好的一面。一段好的恋爱鼓励你追求自己的梦想，即使一个成熟女性放弃追求她的梦想，她也一定会在恋爱中极力追求快乐。

6. They Don’t Think Their Version Of Happiness Is The Only One

6.她们不把她们自己的快乐定义为快乐的唯一版本

Mature women understand that everyone’s idea of happiness is different. If their partner enjoys space, they give it to them, and if they enjoy affection, they give them that instead. Most importantly, they do not make assumptions about how to make their partner happy.

成熟女性知道每个人对快乐的定义不同。如果她们的恋人喜欢拥有自己的空间，她们会给与他们空间；如果他们喜欢卿卿我我，那么就跟他们卿卿我我。最重要的是，她们不会假设她们的恋人怎样才会开心。

7. They Don’t Give Up Their Self Respect

7.她们不会放弃她们的自尊

It is normal to change slightly during a relationship, but mature women don’t allow their relationships to take away their self-respect. They don’t allow their partners to speak to them negatively or condescendingly – they expect their partner to treat them just as well as everyone else in their life.

在恋爱中作出小小的改变很正常，但是成熟女性不会允许恋爱夺走她们的自尊。她们不会允许他们的恋人贬低自己或是用一种屈尊的姿态跟她们说话——她们希望她们的恋人能像对待其他一切人一样来对待她们。

8. They Don’t Take “I Love You” Lightly

8.她们不会轻易说“我爱你”这句话

Mature women understand the importance of those three words, so they work hard to keep the words special, no matter how long they have been with their partner. They don’t say ‘I love you’ at the end of every conversation – instead they say it at the right moments, to show their partner how much they appreciate them.

成熟女性知道这三个字的重要性，所以她们很谨慎地对待这三个字，不管和她们恋人已经在一起多长时间了。她们不会每句话都以“我爱你”结尾——她们只有在恰当的时候才说这句话，让她们的恋人知道她们有多珍视他们。

9. They Don’t Give Up Their Happiness

9.她们不会放弃自己的幸福

Mature women understand the importance of their happiness, and that if they are not happy in a relationship, they shouldn’t be in one. They are aware that their partner is a part of their happiness, and should be someone who can bring them happiness when they are feeling sad.

成熟女性知道幸福的重要性，如果他们在一段恋爱中不幸福，那她们就会终止这段恋爱。她们知道恋人应该是她们幸福的一部分，而且在她们忧伤时应该让她们开心。

10. They Don’t Feel Like They Need To Always Be In Contact With Their Partner

10.她们不觉得有必要时时刻刻与恋人保持联系

Mature women do not need constant contact in their relationships, as they have their own busy lives. They are secure enough to trust their partner when they are not with them, and find non-stop emailing and texting to be a waste of their own time.

成熟女性在恋爱中不需要一直和她们的恋人保持联系，她们自己的生活就够忙的了。当她们的恋人不在身边时，她们有足够的安全感去相信他们，她们认为不停地发电子邮件和短信是一种浪费时间的行为。

11. They Don’t Let Their Partner Make All The Decisions

11.她们不会把所有的决定都让给恋人做

In a mature relationship both partners respect each other’s decisions. This can range from big decisions, such as getting married and having children, to smaller ones, like which restaurant to eat at tonight. Either way, your partner should always consider and respect your decisions – and vice versa!

在一段成熟的恋爱中，双方都会尊重对方的决定。从结婚生子这样的大事到今晚到哪儿吃饭的小事都是如此。不管怎样，你的恋人应该考虑且尊重你的决定——反之亦然。

12. They Don’t Share Their Relationship With The World

12.她们不会把恋爱中的问题告知全世界

Mature women understand the value of keeping their relationship between themselves and their partner. They dislike the idea of the world knowing their business, so they avoid discussing their arguments on social media and instead focus on communicating with their partner to solve the problem.

成熟女性知道恋爱是两人之间的事。她们不喜欢全世界都知道他们的事，所以她们避免在社交媒体上谈论她们之间的分歧，遇到分歧她们会与自己的恋人交流解决。

13. They Don’t Give Up Their Space

13.她们不会放弃自己的个人空间

Mature women know that no matter how great their relationship is, they still occasionally need time alone. From going to the gym to curling up with a good book, mature women value their time alone and actively seek out ‘me-time’.

成熟女性知道不管他们之间的的恋爱有多甜蜜，她们有时还是需要独处的。成熟女性珍视并且经常寻求“独处时间”，比如自己去健身馆或者是躺下读书。

14. They Don’t Resent Their Partner’s Achievements

14.她们不会妒忌恋人的成就

Mature women understand that loving someone means you want them to be as happy as possible. They embrace their partner’s happiness and celebrate their achievements with them, rather than holding their partners back for more selfish reasons.

成熟女性知道爱某人意味着你希望他们尽可能地开心。她们分享自己恋人的幸福、与他们共同庆祝他们的成就，而不是为了一些自私的理由拖恋人的后腿。

15. They Don’t Give Up Their Identity

15.她们不会迷失自我

When you start a new relationship, it is normal to become interested in your partner’s hobbies and interests. It can be a lot of fun to share interests together, but mature women do not let themselves lose their own interests and hobbies for someone else. Instead, they remain interested in both their partner’s hobbies and their own.

当你开始一段新的恋爱时，对你恋人的兴趣爱好感兴趣是很正常的事。共享同样的爱好是很有意思的事，但是成熟女性不会为了别人放弃自己的爱好。反之，她们同时对对方和自己的爱好保持兴趣。

Can you think of anything else that mature women don’t do in relationships? Comment your ideas below!

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